Intellectual humility – what a fabulous concept!
In the last few months, I have been increasingly open with opinions on matters that I believe to be important. I have always loved a good debate and contend that spirited discussion with someone holding opposing views presents an excellent opportunity for intellectual growth.
My tone might come off as self-righteous at times, but I have made enough mistakes (do you think that I intended to have 7 children?!) to realize that I could be wrong in all sorts of scenarios.
I am not always subtle when conveying my perspective, but I am trying to improve delivery while learning from my dialectic combatants. If you insult me, I will not respond with an insult, but I may ask you politely to remain respectful. If you say something that I believe to be an outright lie, I will not call you a liar, but I may ask you to back up your claim.
If we go shopping and you ask me if you look fat in a dress and you look like a double cheeseburger in a hotdog bun, I will not say that you look fat. However, I will encourage you to try on the other dress that “better accentuates your lovely features.”